Saturday, April 6, 2013

The Power of the Snuggle

I couldn't sleep last night. I was tired and wanted to, but insomnia had kicked in. I tossed and turned for a while, then got up to read, figuring it would settle me enough I could fall asleep. It was nearly 4 before I got sleepy enough to do it.

Even once I got sleepy, I still had trouble. I kept waking up every 15-20 minutes. By the time my alarm went off at 7 to remind me to take my temperature (we're trying to conceive so I'm monitoring my BBT), I was feeling pretty rough.

I took my temperature, then fell back asleep again. I woke up about 20 minutes later, then felt Steve snuggling in behind me, wrapping his arms around me. To my surprise, I drifted right back to sleep and slept without waking for a solid two hours.

We talked about it after I got up. I told him about my restless night. He said he woke up and had a feeling I needed to snuggle.

It seems funny that such a simple thing can make a difference. And yet it did. I tossed and turned all night, but immediately calmed and slept well once his arms were around me.

I think part of it has to do with Steve being sick this week. It's nothing major, just a summer cold, but with him still trying to work with it, it's sapped his energy. Normally when we go to bed in the evenings, I curl up against him while we talk about our day or watch a movie. Then we go to sleep. But since he's been sick, we haven't been doing that. He's been coming in from work tired, eating and going straight to bed.

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  1. So, then, never underestimate 'snuggle power'! I don't know why we sometimes can't sleep. It seems to happen now and again doesn't it? I wander off downstairs and make a hot milky drink and read the paper. It's also strange that towards morning, when we should be waking up, we miraculously fall into a deep sleep, then wake up feeling completely trashed! I tend to spoon with Starman. But we move naturally apart during sleep itself, because he gets so flipping hot and I end up feeling trapped.

    I hope you are soon successful in your endeavours Dana. I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts!

    Many hugs

    Ami

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    1. Steve calls me a human heater so he usually won't stay snuggled up to me all night, especially once the weather warms up.

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  2. I have the same problem sleeping and unfortunately, my hubby is not much of a snuggler although I end up getting so hot it's just as well. LOL! I just posted this on fb on my son's wall since he's a night person like me. Thought you might like it.

    Can't paste it here but it said:

    My day starts backwards.

    I wake up tired and go to bed wide awake.

    I'm such a night person it's hard to go to bed at what my husband considers a decent hour. He keeps telling me I need to come over from the "dark" side. lol

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    1. I've thought that myself Janice. It does seem like I do it backwards. I tend to be a night owl so Steve's always after me to come to bed earlier

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  3. I think that is so great that you were finally able to get some sleep. I really feel when my husband snuggles that I'm looked after. He's there, he's got me, I don't have to think about one other thing in the world. :)

    And just so you know, you might want to put on your ttc temperature chart that you didn't sleep well, sometimes it can alter your charts to have nights like that, and if you have it marked for when you look back, you can say why things don't quite line up instead of it looking like it's a hormonal inbalance. :)

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    1. Thanks for reminding me about noting on my chart Es May. I had forgotten to do it.

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  4. I have insomnia, too, Dana. Daddy usually does the same thing, wakes and wraps his arms around me, murmurs into my neck, "Be a good girl and go back to sleep." that's all it takes :) Snuggles are magical.

    I bet that the disruption of your routine had an affect. We are pretty much creatures of habit. We thrive with consistency and structure. When we don't have our rituals it does weigh heavy on us.

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    1. opps....pressed publish too soon -

      (((hugs)))

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    2. I do find that I sleep better when we keep to our routine. If something happens to interfere with our routine, I can pretty much guarantee I won't sleep well, if I sleep at all. We talked about it yesterday so Steve is going to make more of an effort to keep things regular, at least as much as he's able to.

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  5. It's a strange thing isn't it? I used to sleepwalk. Stopped the day we moved in together. Odd, really.
    Bea

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    1. I don't think I ever sleepwalked. Apparently I do talk (and occasionally fight) in my sleep though.

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  6. It's wonderful what their touch can do for us

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    1. Sometimes it doesn't even take him snuggling in. There's been a couple ties that he's just reached over and grabbed my hand in his sleep and it's done the trick.

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  7. Hi Dana, I suffer from insomnia frequently. I totally relate to the comment from Janice above!

    I too bet the disruption to your normal routine had a part to play. It's wonderful that as soon as you snuggled you were able to sleep. I think it's the reassuring touch and feeling cared for. Snuggle power is an amazing thing isn't it?

    Wishing you all the best in your endeavours.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. I definitely feel cared for when he has his arms around me. It is reassuring, especially when our routine has been interrupted.

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  8. Couldn't agree with you more Dana! Neither of us sleep well without our own space but if one of us is flailing about, even just a hand on the other calms us right down. My husband will wake up and rub my back when I've been awake and flailing for hours. It puts me right to sleep.

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    1. Steve does that sometimes and he doesn't always wake up before doing it either. He'll reach over and rest his hand on my hip or grab my hand and it puts me right out.

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  9. Oh I so understand this. I absolutely cannot sleep if my professor isn't close to me. Then, we can put some space if needed, but to fall asleep I love it when he has his hands on me or me, just putting my arm over his chest. I love the closeness and if there's any wrongs during the day, this will wipe them clean.

    M.

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    1. The closeness is something I crave, especially when we haven't had many opportunities to connect due to illness or whatever.

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