Have you ever had one of those moments where someone says something and all of a sudden something you should have realized already becomes crystal clear? Well that happened to me last night.
Yesterday we had dinner with a couple we're friends with (Bobby and Tina). After dinner, we moved out on the front porch to talk while the kids played in the yard. Eventually the conversation landed on another couple that we're friends with and had introduced to them (Jamie and Missy). I had picked up a few hints that Bobby wasn't a big fan of Jamie so I wasn't surprised when he said that he didn't like him. I was, however, surprised when I heard the reason.
Bobby said the reason he doesn't like Jamie is that he tries to stir up trouble between me and Steve. At first, I didn't see it. I'll be the first to admit that I don't care for Jamie; I just tolerate him because he's married to my friend.
Then Bobby mentioned something that had happened a couple weeks ago and all of a sudden it made perfect sense. The more I thought about it, the more I realized it wasn't the first time Jamie had deliberately tried to cause problems between us. It's been going on for a while.
I talked to Steve about it last night and it was on my mind all day today. Marriage can be difficult enough at times without someone deliberately trying to sabotage your relationship. And it just ticks me off that someone would do that to us when we've been nothing but nice to them.
If it wasn't for my friendship with Missy, I'd turn my back on them in a heartbeat. We worked too hard to build our marriage to where it is now to let some idiot jeopardize it for no reason other than he likes stirring up trouble. So Steve and I compromised. I'll continue to be friends with Missy and hang out with her when it's just her and the kids. But we're no longer hanging out with them as a couple.
I'm just grateful that we do have good friends that recognize that we have a happy marriage and want to help us keep it that way. Otherwise, we might still be going along not realizing that some jerk that gets his kicks out of causing misery was working against us.