Consistency Builds Trust
Pick a blog about DD. Any one of them will do. I can almost guarantee that you will find at least one reference to consistency in it. Odds are, you will find several.
Consistency is a topic that is often discussed in our community. We bemoan the lack of it. We talk about the importance of it. Sometimes we might even half-heartedly complain about there being too much of it.
I have to admit I never noticed the relationship between consistency and trust until I came across that three word sentence in the article. But the more I think about it, the more I see that they are connected.
When Steve is being consistent, I can trust that our marriage is important to him. I can trust that he does care because he's obviously paying attention and is willing to do what's needed to head off any problems. I can trust that when I push against him, he's going to be rock solid.
But consistency is a two way street. In one of our bumpy off road adventures during our first year, Steve told that it wasn't fair for me to get upset over him for not being consistent in his role when I wasn't being consistent in my role. He was right. It wasn't fair. He needs me to be consistent just as much as I need him to be.
When I'm being consistent, I'm telling him I trust his leadership. He can trust that our marriage is just as important to me as it is to him. He can trust that I do care because my words and actions show it.
The more consistent Steve is, the more I trust him. The more consistent I am, the more he trusts me. As our consistency grows, so does our trust for one another, and with that trust, our marriage strengthens.