Tuesday, February 24, 2015

50 Shades of WTF

I don't generally watch the news because I find it depressing. I check the headlines online and only read the stories that interest me. This morning as I was lying in bed trying to get motivated to get up, the news came on. I was about to flip the channel when I heard 50 Shades mentioned so I kept it on to see what was going on.

A University of Illinois at Chicago student was being charged with assault after trying to reenact a scene from the movie with a fellow female student. The two weren't dating, but had been intimate in the past. Apparently, he took the girl to his dorm room, tied her up and gagged her before taking a belt to her. When she asked him to stop, he kept going to the point of raping her. When his roommate returned, she took advantage of his distraction to escape and seek help.

You can read the whole story here.

12 comments:

  1. I'm afraid we'll hear/see more of this, and I want to say: This is NOT the fault of James, or 50 Shades.
    I'm not a fan of the book--because it was a little boring to me-but I applaud any author who can get millions to read, and I don't object to the subject matter either. It's a love story-that simple. This act would have happened eventually anyhow, somewhere, some time. The man's a rapist. The rules: Safe- Sane- Consensual-he broke them.
    I'd say the fault is the man's, the culture, the society that hasallowed him to believe he's not responsible for his actions, that when a woman says "No" it's ok to continue.

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    1. That was my thought as well. The sad thing is that people are going to act on things they read and see (not necessarily just 50 Shades) without taking the time to truly understand what it is. As you pointed out, he broke the rules. This is where a safe word comes in handy. I have told my husband "no please stop" during a spanking or even in play, but he knows not to take it seriously unless i say my safe word. Even if I'm too stubborn to say it, he knows my limits and pays close attention so he can see the signs that indicate I'm close to a limit.

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  2. I haven't read the books and it's doubtful I'll see the movie and that's only because I'm just not interested. It's sad to hear of this couple and hate to say it but there mint be more cases, especially if someone doesn't understand the concept of consent. Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. I haven't either. I'm a bit of a snob when it comes to books and I just couldn't get past the poor writing in the excerpt i read. As far as the movie, our local theater closed a while back and I'm not interested enough to bother driving to the one in the nearby city.

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  3. What an idiot and now there will be all kinds of reactions blaming 50SOG instead of placing the blame exactly where it belongs - on the idiot.

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  4. No means no. He was inspired by 50 SOG. Really, he had it in him, that's just his excuse and needs to learn to respect women and their boundaries. Unfortunately we will be hearing much more of this. In my state we had a highly publicized murder trial last year where a couple lured a naive college student to their apartment and the dom - guy killed her. BDSM was center stage as his sub girlfriend cut a plea and testified against him talking about boyfriend's desires and lifestyle.

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    1. What got me about it is that he admitted to investigators that he did something wrong. If he knew it was wrong, why didn't he stop?

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  5. Good gravy...he's a sadistic rapist and thinks he can get away with it by blaming FSOG...just like others have tried to get away with murder and other crimes by blaming movies and/or videos. The 'not my fault' defense. *sigh*

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. From what I've read, it appears that the judge wasn't falling for it. I hope they nail him.

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  6. How awful, and sad. I'm with Leigh and Cat. Unfortunately, it probably won't be the only similar case.

    Hugs
    Roz

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