Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Anybody Still Here?

Not sure if anyone is still looking for posts here after such a long absence, but I thought I'd poke my head out and say hi. It's been a bit crazy around here.

I've had my hands full dealing with my mom. She's not in the best of health to begin with, but shortly after my last post, she started experiencing some new symptoms so I fussed at her until she went to her doctor. The doctor thought it was a minor issue that would resolve itself. It wasn't.

It turned out to be a major issue requiring surgery. Then she developed multiple complications after the surgery. It's taken months of hospital stays, doctor visits and physical therapy to get her well enough she could finally return home to finish her recovery. She's doing better now, but we're looking into finding her a place nearby so I can keep an eye on her.

It's been hugely stressful, especially since I was already dealing with issues with anxiety. Needless to say, being under all that stress for a prolonged period of time made my anxiety a lot worse. I was so focused on everything that was going on with my mom that I failed to pay attention to what was going on with me. I came close to having a nervous breakdown and did end up getting sick enough to require a visit to the doctor.

Now that the crisis has passed, we're working on getting back to normal. Of course, that means dusting DD off and trying to find our rhythm again. That hasn't been without a few challenges. For starters, dealing with my mom meant stepping outside my usual role. I got used to being in charge and making decisions with little or no input from anybody else. Even though there were days I longed for someone else to take over, I'm finding it a little difficult to let go of the reins.  Two, I'm also struggling to regain my emotional balance after months of stress and anxiety. There have been a few blowups.

Steve's brought back our weekly check-ins. He's also came up with some fun ways to remind me who the boss is. I'm not going to lie. I'm enjoying being reminded.😁 We're also planning another boot camp since we're going to have the house to ourselves for a week. It's been several years since we've done one, but we both found it beneficial the last time.

2 comments:

  1. Hi Dana,

    What a wonderful surprise to see you pop up in my blog roll :) I so sorry to hear about the issues with your Mom, that is hugely stressful. So glad to hear she is now on the road to recovery.

    It is definitely hard finding your rhythm again after being in a position of having to take charge and make decisions. Glad Steve is finding fun ways to remind you :)

    Sending positive thoughts and prayers.

    Hugs
    Roz

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  2. Welcome back. It is so very difficult when you have to take total charge of one part of your life...usually when helping someone out....to be submissive in another part. Glad to hear that your mom is doing better...Good luck finding your way back, sounds like you have started successfully...hugs abby

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